Every relationship you've ever had was shaped by the first bonds you formed. When those early bonds felt unpredictable, unsafe, or emotionally distant, they can leave behind attachment trauma—a wound that quietly shapes how you love, trust, and show up in every relationship that follows.
You may have learned to over-give, shut down, or brace for disappointment before it even arrives. These patterns aren't flaws. They're your nervous system's best attempt to keep you safe in a world that once felt unpredictable.
Hi, I'm Bri, a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. I help adults gently understand and heal attachment trauma so they can build the safe, connected relationships they deserve. My work is grounded in in-person sessions, where face-to-face presence supports deeper nervous system regulation with online therapy also available for clients who need that flexibility in their lives.
What Does Attachment Trauma Look Like in Adults?
Attachment trauma in adults rarely announces itself directly. Instead, it hides inside everyday relational patterns that feel confusing or exhausting.
Common attachment trauma symptoms include:
Fear of abandonment or intense need for reassurance
Difficulty trusting partners, friends, or even yourself
Pulling away or shutting down when relationships get close
Anxiety in relationships that seems to appear out of nowhere
Chronic people-pleasing or fear of disappointing others
Feeling unworthy of consistent, secure love
Your symptoms are evidence of a nervous system still protecting you from wounds formed long before you had words for them.
Why Does Attachment Trauma Therapy Work Differently?
Talk therapy alone often struggles to reach attachment trauma, because these wounds live in the body, not just the mind. You can understand your patterns intellectually and still feel powerless to change them in the moment.
Attachment trauma therapy that includes the body helps your nervous system experience safety directly, rather than just thinking about it. This is where somatic work becomes essential—it helps you complete the protective responses your body couldn't finish long ago, so healing attachment trauma becomes possible at a felt, physiological level.
How Do You Heal Attachment Trauma at Your Own Pace?
Learning how to heal attachment trauma isn't about reliving every painful memory. Together, we work with the sensations, patterns, and protective responses showing up in your relationships right now.
This process often includes restoring a felt sense of safety, gently repairing boundaries, and reconnecting with emotions that were once too unsafe to feel. We move slowly, at a pace your system can integrate.
In-Person Care, With Online Support When You Need It
In-person sessions are the foundation of my practice. The shared physical space, eye contact, and co-regulation they offer can often help your nervous system settle into safety faster during attachment trauma therapy. For clients who aren’t local, or who simply feel steadier working remotely, online sessions are available so distance never had to stand between you and support.
You Deserve Secure, Healthy Connection
Healing attachment trauma is possible at any age, and you don't have to navigate it alone. If you're ready to explore attachment trauma therapy in a supportive in-person setting or online, if that fits your life better, reach out to me today to schedule your free consultation.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes, and this is something I want you to really hear. Your nervous system built these patterns for protection, not because they're permanent. Through consistent somatic work, many people move toward what's called "earned secure attachment," a felt sense of safety in relationships that wasn't there before.
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There's no single timeline, because your history isn't the same as anyone else's. Some people notice shifts in how they respond to conflict or closeness within a few months. Others, especially with deeper or earlier wounds, work with me for a year or more to fully settle into new patterns.
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I hear this question often, and the answer is always no. Your body doesn't have an expiration date on healing. The nervous system stays capable of learning safety at any point in life, which means the work we do now can genuinely shift patterns that started decades ago.
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An attachment style is the pattern; attachment trauma is often the wound underneath it. You might identify as anxious or avoidant in relationships, but somatic work goes beneath that label to address the original experiences your body is still responding to.
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There's no pressure to tell your whole story right away. We start by getting curious together about what's happening in your body right now, your breath, your posture, the places you feel tension, so we can build a foundation of safety before we go any deeper.